When I told you that my past relationships were hard on me, I really trusted you wouldn’t do the same. I confided in you; I believed you were someone who would at least show me the decency of avoiding those same hurtful behaviors. I was honest and upfront about what terrified me and what I wanted to avoid again in the future because I couldn’t imagine reliving the nightmare all over again.
1. I WAS OPEN ABOUT MY BAGGAGE AND YOU THREW IT IN MY FACE.
I didn’t tell you my history to give you ideas on how you could ruin me all over again — I told you because I thought you’d care if you wanted this thing to work out. I literally gave you a manual on how not to behave and instead, you followed it like a set of assembly instructions.
2. HOW CAN ANYONE BE THAT INSENSITIVE?
Your lack of maturity is actually astounding. How could anyone think that torturing someone with the same stuff they’ve specifically mentioned they’ve experienced is OK? I’ll never know the answer, but you’ve certainly shown me how big of a moron you are.
3. DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER TO HURT ME?
I constantly wonder what was going through your mind when you decided to pull the same moves that lead me to broken places before. What did you get out of it? Was there something sickly satisfying to your cold heart that made it enjoyable for you to treat me like dirt? Hurting me might make you feel temporarily on top, but I promise you that once I get over it, I’m the one who will come out ahead, because you’ve made me that much stronger and wiser to guys like you.
4. YOU’RE A SPECIAL KIND OF PLAYER.
It takes a special level of stupid to pull the things that you did. I shared parts of myself with you that I trusted were for safe keeping, but you only used me to make yourself feel better and never thought of me at all. I’ll never make the same mistake again.
5. IT TOOK A LOT FOR ME TO COME CLEAN ABOUT MY DEMONS.
It wasn’t easy for me to spill my heart to you and confide in you everything I had endured and was afraid of reliving again, but you clearly weren’t listening carefully enough. There’s a reason women develop trust issues — it’s because of jerks like you.
6. I DIDN’T DO ANYTHING TO DESERVE YOUR COMPLETE LACK OF RESPECT.
I was nothing but kind to you and welcomed you into my life in a fair and honest way. I respected you and when you confided things to me about your own past, and I was considerate enough to avoid making you feel the ways that you hated. Respect is a two way street, but apparently in your self-centered little world, it’s your way or the highway.
7. I’M MORE THAN WHAT YOU’LL EVER DESERVE.
In hindsight and after living the nightmare you put me through, I know that I’m definitely worth more than you’ll ever deserve. I would have treated you in ways you could never dream of, but instead, I’ll be saving my energy for someone who’s actually worthy of me.
8. THANK YOU FOR SHOWING ME YOUR TRUE COLORS.
Even though you upset me by putting me through the same crap I told you I never wanted to go through again, I’m actually glad that you did. You showed me who you truly are deep down by playing the same cards someone else already had. I might hate what you did, but at least you saved me from wasting years of my life on someone who clearly isn’t worth the investment.
9. GOOD RIDDANCE.
I would wish you the best but you already had it — sorry for your loss. I won’t miss you or the what you put me through.