The truth isn’t always going to be something that you would want to hear. Sometimes, the truth can be a hard pill to swallow. However, it’s always best that you really come to terms with reality.
You can’t be blinding yourself to the truth because you would only end up playing the fool. You don’t want to be settling for naivety in this life most especially when it comes to love.
That’s why you need to stop comforting yourself with lies and false hopes. You need to come to terms with the fact that the future that you want for yourselves is never going to happen. It’s never going to come true.
The truth is that if he really wanted to, he would still be at your side. But he isn’t. If he genuinely wanted to have a future with you, then he would definitely do everything in his power to make sure that it happens.
If he really wanted to be with you, then he wouldn’t allow anything to keep the two of you from being together. If he really wanted to be the one you spend the rest of your life with, then he would fight to make you a priority in his life.
He would always be treating you with utmost respect and adoration. He would always be proving the commitment that he claims to have for you. He would really go out of his way just to prove to you that he loves you and that he isn’t going to settle for a life without you.
If he genuinely wanted to be with you, then he wouldn’t let anyone or anything get in his path. He wouldn’t be allowing you to be relegated to a mere afterthought. If he doesn’t do anything to show you that he genuinely wants to keep you in his life, then it’s probably time for you to let go of all of your dreams and aspirations with him.
It’s probably never going to work out and you need to get started on the process of just moving on from him entirely. Face the truth. Accept it. Come to terms with it. Rip that Band-Aid off and open your eyes to the signs that you need to be seeing. You don’t want to be forcing yourself into this scenario.
You don’t want to be forcing the issue with him. You are only setting yourself up for a life of prolonged heartbreak and disappointment by doing so.
There are so many women who make the mistake of holding on for dear life even when it’s clearly time for them to let go. Okay, you might want to give him a second chance.
You might want to give him some time to change. But you’re essentially beating a dead horse by doing so. You might hit pause on your own life as you try to deal with your grief. You might just toss and turn late at night as you think about the life that you could have had with him.
You might spend so many hours in the day just daydreaming about the future that you could have shared together. But all of your dreams are going to remain as fantasies and you need to really accept that as early as now. The truth is that if he wanted to be with you, then he would.
If you’re really meant to be, then maybe he would find his way back to you eventually. But if there’s really no chance of doing so anymore, then you just need to let him go. You just need to detach yourself from that situation entirely. You need to find a way to move on.
It’s not going to be easy. And no one really expects you to be able to go through it with any kind of ease whatsoever. Maybe if he were a terrible human being, it really wouldn’t be all that difficult to just let go of him.
But if he’s a really good guy who wants what is best for you but just isn’t compatible with you, then it might be a lot harder to walk away from that kind of situation.
It can really hurt to let go of a good guy because it might feel like you’re letting a valuable opportunity slip away. But here’s the thing, just because he’s a good guy doesn’t mean that you’re meant to be together. That’s just the way of the world that you need to accept.
The most important thing that you really need to understand is this: you don’t need to be in a relationship to feel fulfilled or validated. You don’t need to be with someone just to feel happy.
Learn to find happiness, love, and meaning within yourself. And just trust that eventually, the man you’re meant to be with forever is going to come into your life when you’re both ready.