Everyone says that when you meet the person you’re meant to spend your life with, you’ll just know. Sure, some people may have an a-ha moment where the heavens open up and the universe screams, “It’s him!”; for others, it’s a subtle set of changes over the course of the relationship. Here are a few of the signs you’re finally with your true soulmate.
1. YOU HAVE NO DESIRE TO LOOK BACKWARD.
It’s natural after a long relationship or a bad breakup to constantly be thinking about what happened and what could have been. Everyone mourns lost love differently, but a clear sign you’re with the person who’s your future is when you realize that you no longer find yourself thinking about your ex. Why would you when everything you want is right in front of you?
2. EVERY DAY WITH HIM FEELS EXCITING NO MATTER HOW LONG YOU’VE BEEN TOGETHER.
Even when the honeymoon stage is over and you’re well into the routine of coupledom, waking up in the mornings happy to share each day with him shows that you’re in it for the long haul. You know him so well and yet you can’t help but want to know more and to share more about yourself. Loving him never gets old.
3. HE GENUINELY RESPECTS YOU AS A PARTNER.
Unlike a guy who likes you but clearly sees himself as Prince Charming come to save you, your future husband knows that you’re independent, brilliant, and more than capable of anything all on your own. In fact, that’s why he loves you. He’ll ask your opinion on things and actually listen to what you have to say—and when it comes to decisions about your life together, he’ll always make them with you.
4. YOU CAN TRUST HIM WITH ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING.
We all have things we find hard to share even with our closest friends or partners but it’s different with him. You know you can let him in on your secrets, hopes, fears, and all the things no one else about you knows. If you know without a shadow of a doubt that he’ll keep them safe, he’s a keeper.
5. HE ISN’T AFRAID OF A LITTLE CONFLICT.
No relationship is perfect and even the best couples will sometimes have disagreements. A real man and the one you want to be with forever will embrace the challenges you face rather than being afraid to communicate with you and he’ll be willing to give as much as he takes. If you and your guy know you can get through any hiccup, it’s a sign you’re meant to be.
6. EVEN THE SKEPTICS IN YOUR LIFE ASSUME YOU’LL BE GETTING MARRIED.
Some family and friends like to ring wedding bells the minute someone new comes into your life, but then there are the few people closest to you who are convinced no one in the world is good enough. When they start talking about the future wedding or making plans with your beau in mind, you know it’s real.
7. YOU ACCEPT EACH OTHER FOR EXACTLY WHO YOU ARE.
When your partner’s quirks are your favorite attributes and you’re able to be your authentic selves when you’re together, you’ve found your true soulmate. We all put up some kind of front as we go through life, slowly revealing more and more of our true selves to those who prove that they won’t run away. Once you and your guy have gotten to that level, there’s no turning back.
8. THE IDEA OF BEING WITH ANYONE ELSE IS ABSURD.
Not only are you uninterested in the random attractive guy walking down the street or the endless social media posts about dating apps, but the thought of dating someone other than this guy is almost comical. Now that you know what it’s like to be with him and to love and be loved by him, there’s nothing else you could possibly want. In fact, you literally can’t picture life without him.
9. HE TAKES CARE OF YOU WHEN YOU’RE SICK.
If you’re a snotty, messy ball on the couch and he still finds you beautiful, wrap him up and hold on tight. The “in sickness and in health” section of wedding vows is a real promise and if he’s already showing that he’ll hold up that end of the bargain, you can trust him to follow through.
10. YOU KNOW YOU’VE BECOME A BETTER PERSON SINCE HE CAME AROUND.
You’re not just a better girlfriend, but you’re better at your job, more loyal to your friends, and a more understanding sister, daughter, and person. He’s shown you a version of yourself that was always in there but hiding behind the surface, and you’re so proud that she’s now in the world.
11. THINKING ABOUT THE FUTURE ISN’T SCARY ANYMORE.
We never know exactly what is coming down the road, but with him by your side, that’s no longer terrifying. Whatever happens, you know he’ll do everything he can to make you happy for the rest of your life, and that’s the best feeling in the world.