It’s always good to put in the effort in a relationship. After all, the best things in life never come easy. And if you want the kind of love that you think you deserve, you’re going to have to make sure that you put in the work to earn it. Love was never designed to be easy after all. So it’s only normal that you have to work for it a little bit.
However, it also gets to a point where you need to make sure that your efforts aren’t being wasted on someone who doesn’t deserve it. Remember that you are only human and that you have your own limitations as well. You shouldn’t really be wasting your time and energy on someone who just isn’t worth what you’re giving.
The moment that you see that you’re with someone who just isn’t worth it, then you need to be able to detach yourself from that narrative. You need to be able to walk away.
You don’t want to be wasting your love on someone who takes you for granted. And how do you know that you’re with someone who just isn’t worth it? Well, here are a few signs that you could keep on the lookout for.
1. She always makes the relationship all about herself.
She is selfish. She never thinks about your needs. She never concerns herself with your feelings. It’s always about her. She only cares that her expectations and needs are being met. She always wants to be the center of attention of the relationship.
2. You share fundamentally different values.
It’s just hard whenever you share fundamentally different values and principles in life. It’s so hard to establish a sense of compatibility between the two of you if you just virtually disagree on fundamental principles. You need to be on reconcilable moral planes if you want your relationship to last.
3. She never makes time for you in the relationship.
Remember that in life, we only ever really make time for the things that are most important to us. And if she’s not making time for you, then it’s because she doesn’t really consider you to be a priority to her. She doesn’t see you as an importance.
4. She talks about her ex in conversations with you.
She has no regard for what kind of impact her words may have on you. She is reckless with what she says. She tells you things just to hurt you and make you feel inadequate. She isn’t really interested in taking care of you.
5. You are always the one who has to initiate conversations.
It’s as if you guys would probably never even talk to one another if you didn’t initiate conversations with her. She would never be the one who reaches out to you first.
6. She is hot and cold with you.
She’s inconsistent. She’s mostly ever really nice to you only when she feels like she can gain something out of it. But otherwise, she’s very cold with you. She wouldn’t even make an effort to acknowledge you existence if she could help it. Her kind treatment towards you is never consistent.
7. She doesn’t bring out the best in you.
In fact, if she brings out the worst in you, then just leave her. Any relationship that you’re in should motivate and inspire you to be the best version of yourself. And if that isn’t the case, then it’s really not a relationship worth fighting for.
8. She is totally reliant and dependent on you.
She is needy and dependent. And that’s dangerous. You never want to be in a relationship with someone who is too needy. That places too much pressure on the relationship – and it’s toxic.
9. She doesn’t stay loyal to you.
She cheats on you. Plain and simple. She just can’t seem to stay loyal and commit to you. She would rather have irresponsible fun at the expense of your feelings than stay committed to you. She’s not really serious about making things work with you – so you shouldn’t be with her either.
10. She doesn’t make you feel like she has your back.
She isn’t necessarily a girl that you can rely on to help you whenever you need her. She isn’t going to be consistent in the relationship. You will never be able to depend on her to help pick you up whenever you stumble. She isn’t really what you would consider to be a partner in life.
11. She doesn’t make an effort to be nice to your friends.
She doesn’t care about the important people in your life – because you aren’t necessarily all that important to her either. She really isn’t invested in getting your friends to like her.
12. She acts jealous even when there’s no reason to.
Never be content with dating a girl who is going to act jealous even when there’s no reason to be. It shows that she might be crazy and possessive. And you don’t want that kind of toxic behavior in a relationship at all.