There are very few things in this life that hurt more than being left by the man you love most in the world. It can be especially damning if you don’t see the breakup coming. It’s like you get hit across the face with the chair but your mind and your heart hasn’t had the time to process everything yet because of how surprising it was for you. But a lot of times, breakups don’t happen on impulse.
They happen gradually. And if you’re smart enough, you will be able to spot the signs early on. In fact, from the outside looking in, it can be much easier to spot when a breakup is imminent in a relationship. But when you’re on the inside, you’re just far too close and emotionally invested in the relationship to be able to see things accurately.
That’s why it’s important for you to always develop a sense of self-awareness in the relationship. You need to be able to read between the lines of how your partner is acting so that you can really get to the bottom of things. You never want to be blindsided by a breakup.
That kind of emotional trauma is just far too devastating. And if you spot the signs early, you at least have a chance to rectify the things that are wrong in your relationship. Or at the very least, you get the chance to brace yourself for the inevitable. Here are a few signs that your man is going to leave you.
1. Your gut is telling you that something just doesn’t feel right.
You start to get a feeling down in your gut that something is off in your relationship. Always make sure that you pay attention to your instincts. Remember that your instincts are there to look out for you and keep you safe.
2. He starts to prioritize other things over you and the relationship.
You start to realize that your man is beginning to prioritize other things over you. In the past, he would always choose to spend time with you than take on more hours at the office. But nowadays, it feels like you’re the one who has to be okay with being in second place.
3. You have a declining or a nonexistent sex life.
Sex is very important for modern relationships. Sex is a direct manifestation of the amount of physical intimacy and affection in a relationship. That’s why if you feel like your sex life is drastically declining, then you can most likely bet that something is wrong.
4. He starts spending more time with his friends than with you.
Remember that we only ever really allot time for the things that matter most to us. If he is spending more and more time with his friends than with you, then that is an indicator that he values his friends more than he does you at the moment.
5. He gets annoyed whenever you ask him for more attention.
In the past, he would do whatever he could to make you happy. But now, he gets more and more annoyed with your demands and your requests. He is starting to consider you to be a burden in his life and it may mean he wants nothing to do with you anymore.
6. You feel like you are the only one putting effort into the relationship.
Relationships are always going to be about having synergy and equal effort. If you feel like there is an imbalance of effort, then that is a definite sign that one of you is becoming less and less invested in the relationship.
7. He doesn’t make an effort to look good for you anymore.
Couples should never stop trying to look good for one another. Couples in love always make it a point to try their best to make sure that they are still attractive to their partners. But if they start getting sloppy, then maybe something is definitely wrong in the relationship.
8. The bad days in the relationship are starting to outnumber the good ones.
Relationships weren’t always designed to be easy. But they weren’t designed to be so difficult either. IF you are having more bad days than good ones, then something is definitely wrong.
9. He no longer discusses future plans with you.
He doesn’t want to discuss future plans with you because he doesn’t really see a future with you at all. This is bad especially when you’re really expecting your relationship to last for a long time.
10. You stop talking to one another about deep things.
If there is a decline in the quality of your conversations, then that is also a sign that things aren’t going so great in the relationship. Yes, there is always room for some small talk within a relationship, but most conversations should actually take on some depth and meaning.
11. You both refuse to make substantial compromises for the sake of your relationship.
And lastly, if you just refuse to make compromises for each other, then you are essentially dooming your relationship. You are just letting your partner know that you don’t care about what they want or how they feel and that you would never be willing to compromise or sacrifice for the sake of the relationship.