Ego should not exist in relationships.
Men are egotistical creatures more so than women. And that’s why they are the subject of this article. There are just so many men out there who unhealthily give into the needs of their ego without necessarily considering the gravity of their words or actions. Yes, it’s true that a lot of women suffer from dealing with a lot of self-esteem issues. But women likely take their social anxieties out on material objects. They usually resort to retail therapy, fitness, or social media vanity to combat their self-esteem issues. But with men, they take it to another level. Men have no problems using women as objects as tools for them to validate their worth. There are so many men who just chase after women because of the novelty that they think these women offer their lives. They don’t necessarily go after the love. They chase after the confidence boost that comes with being with an amazing woman.
So if you are unfortunate enough to find yourself in a relationship with a man who is just using you to beef up his own ego, you have to call him out on it. You can’t allow a man to objectify you in that manner. You are a human being who deserves to be loved as such; not as some tool or a prized possession. You can’t allow a man to treat you like some sort of trophy to cure his personal insecurities. You have to be with someone who respects you enough to actually love you without using it as a means for something.
So how do you know if you’re with a guy like that? A guy who is only looking to use you as some sort of ego booster? Well, there are some signs that you could keep an eye out for. So if you notice that a lot of the signs listed on here are things that your man is guilty of, then you have to reconsider the relationship. Here are some signs that your man is only using you for his ego.
1. His compliments for you all revolve around how you look.
It’s good that your man is constantly complimenting you. It’s bad that all of his compliments for you all revolve around how you look. It’s a clear indicator that he doesn’t really care all that much about your personality or your character so as long as you continue to look pretty for him.
2. He can’t wait to show you off to your friends even when it’s early in the relationship.
Normally, you would never just introduce a person you’re just starting to date to your dearest and closest friends. You wait until you see some real potential with this person before you actually integrate them into your social circle. But with him, he can’t wait to show you off. He just wants to show the world that he managed to land you to beef up his own ego.
3. He doesn’t really express much interest in the life that you live.
He doesn’t care about your hopes and dreams. He doesn’t want to go into the inaccessible depths of your heart. He has no interest in your musings, thoughts, and opinions. He just wants you to look pretty with your arm around his own.
4. He forces you to tag along to events that don’t really require your attendance.
It’s one thing to have a partner who wants to make you feel included in his life. He wants you to get to know him better so he exposes you to his world. But it’s bad to have a partner who treats you like some sort of fashion accessory that he can’t leave home without because his outfit would be incomplete.
5. He isn’t really interested in planning a future with you.
He’s living off temporary highs with you. He’s not really invested in a future with you. He just wants to milk you for whatever good press you can give him for the time being.
6. He cares too much about how people see your relationship.
He is much more concerned about how your relationship looks from the outside looking in than he is about your actual feelings. He wouldn’t care that the relationship makes you happy so as long as it makes him look good to others.
7. He still has wandering eyes.
He is constantly scouting for better options. To him, you are an expendable accessory that he might want to replace at any time if a more viable opportunity presents itself.
8. He criticizes you for your looks.
He always wants to make sure that you look like a girl who is actually worthy of being with him. He doesn’t see the point of allowing you to be his girl if you don’t look the part.
9. He constantly tries to control how you live your life.
And lastly, a big sign that he’s only treating you like some sort of object or tool for his ego is when he constantly tries to control your life. He doesn’t acknowledge your individuality or your conscience. In his mind, you are some toy he can control and manipulate however he wants.