To The Boy Who Isn’t Sure About A Relationship, Don’t Miss Your Chance

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Otherwise, you will regret letting her go.

Because people can’t wait forever, and I’m telling you she will walk.

In 2017, dating is frowned upon, especially in high school and college. Constantly, I have helped my friends through breakups because their boyfriend just wants to have fun. Or those dreaded text messages over the decision- whether or not he can commit to a relationship.

Why can’t we just have fun? No strings attached?

Because she loves you, and she has committed to the fact that she wants to be with you, now and in the future. You’re toying with her feelings and making her feel like she’s not worth it.

Do it now, please. Don’t regret letting her go.

It will be hard but it’ll come a time that she will walk away. She will pursue another guy, who will be ready for her. She will give him things she wouldn’t give to you.

And I dare you to be mad.

I dare you to text her telling her how much you miss her. I dare you to hug her next time you see her. I dare you like all of her pictures and type back to her snapchat selfie.

And for once in her life, she’ll leave you on read, and never think about it again.

And your heart will break, into a million pieces, and no one will ever compare to her, you’ll miss the times she came to you with no questions asked. You’ll miss the nights when she was for you, and only you.

If you feel your heart in your stomach, don’t let her go.

I’m telling you sometimes your nights in, with someone you care about is more fun than placing your bets on someone during a night out.

You will not waste your youth, you will only make it better. If you love someone don’t make them wait.

Do. It. Now.

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When He Says He Is ‘Not Ready For A Relationship Right Now’ He Might Be Telling The Truth

It’s heartbreaking to hear that the boy you’ve been flirting with, the boy you’ve been in an almost relationship with, the boy you expected to become your boyfriend, isn’t ready for a relationship right now. 

It makes you feel like you screwed up somewhere, like you did something to drive him away, like you weren’t good enough for him. And it makes you hate him just a little bit — for leading you on, for telling you how much he likes you, for making you think that something real was going to happen between the two of you.

You don’t understand it. Why would he make you yearn for a relationship with him and then admit that he wasn’t ready for one?

You wish he never used that clichéd phrase — that he’s not ready for a relationship right now. It feels like a lame excuse. Like he’s lying to your face because the truth would be too uncomfortable.

And maybe he is lying. Maybe he’s a coward, too afraid to hand you his heart because it got smashed to pieces in the past. Maybe he’s a fuckboy, trying to string you along for as long as he can get away with it.

Or maybe he’s being honest, maybe he’s really not ready for a relationship.

Maybe he isn’t prepared to give you the love that you deserve, so he’s doing what he thinks is right by turning you down, by giving you the opportunity to date somebody new.

Maybe he’s worried that he’ll hurt you, that your relationship will quickly become toxic if he agreed to be with you, so he’s making the right decision for you both. Maybe he really isn’t ready for a relationship and the effort, responsibility, and trust that it entails.

Maybe a girlfriend would be impossible for him to handle right now.

That doesn’t mean that what he did was okay. That doesn’t mean that he was justified in flirting with you for weeks when he knew that it would never lead anywhere. That doesn’t mean you should wait for him until he is ready, either.

It just means that all of the special moments you shared weren’t for nothing. They might have meant as much to him as they meant to you. He might have liked you as much as you liked him.

But timing is a bitch. Love is a bitch. Sometimes, relationships don’t work out, even if two people truly care for each other. Sometimes, life seriously sucks.

So don’t tear yourself apart when you hear that he isn’t ready for a relationship. Don’t assume that you did something wrong, that if you would have played your cards right then he would have agreed to be with you.

Don’t let those what-ifs plague your mind. Don’t let this rejection claw your heart to shreds.

He might not be ready for a relationship, but there are other boys out there who are. Boys who would be eager to jump into your bed, into your arms, into your heart forevermore.

By Holly Riordan for ThoughtCatalog

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