9 Signs You’ve Found Your Soulmate (If You Believe In That Sort Of Thing)

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Mention the word “soulmate” to a group of people and you’re bound to get a few eye rolls. The idea that there’s one magical person for you who you’ll fall in love with instantly and never disagree with is just not realistic.

What does exist — at least for many people — is a person who you know instinctively, who you connect with on the deepest level and who allows you to grow as a person within the relationship. When that person is a romantic partner, you’ve come across something truly special.

So how do you know when you’ve found The One? Below, a team of love and relationship experts identify the most telling signs.

1. You communicate without speaking.

Soulmates can read each other like an open book. “They connect fervently on every level of being,” clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Carmen Harra told The Huffington Post. “One may finish the other’s sentences, they may pick up the phone to call each other simultaneously, or feel like they simply can’t be without their partner.”

Dr. Sue Johnson, a clinical psychologist and author of Love Sense, said that a soulmate also knows how to respond to your emotional signals. “They stay close when you confide, give you their full attention and move in to answer to your needs, touching your hand when you are a little unsure, beaming and hugging you when you are glad, and tenderly comforting you when you are in pain,” she added.

2. You know in your gut that you’ve found The One.

The old adage “When you know, you know” rings true when it comes to a soulmate connection. “There really is no guessing or wondering when the real thing comes along,” wedding officiant and author Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway told The Huffington Post. “There is usually a telltale sign that lets you know when true love has arrived -– a voice in your head, a sense of recognition or a gut feeling that this is someone special to you.”

3. The physical chemistry is palpable…

…and the electricity that you feel doesn’t just happen on a sexual level. “Holding the hand of your soulmate throws your spirit into a whirlwind, even many years into the relationship,” Harra said.

4. You’ve been totally comfortable around each other since day one.

Soulmates connect with ease right off the bat and let their true colors show without fear of judgment. “Soulmates often feel a sense of the familiar and a sense of comfort around each other,” Brockway said. “Many people say it’s easier to relax into that person and allow themselves to be vulnerable.”

“It is the one who opens up to you –- who lets you in, so you can see them,” Johnson added. “This is the kind of person who takes risks and shares about their inner world, their emotions and their needs.”

5. But the relationship isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. He or she challenges you like no one else can.

The soulmate relationship, despite what people might assume, isn’t always smooth sailing. “A soulmate isn’t always wrapped in the perfect package, physically or in terms of life circumstances — nor does it mean that the relationship will come without challenge,” author Kailen Rosenberg of matchmaking firm The Love Architects said. “Yet, the difference is that the life circumstances and the difficult challenges are a strengthening power that becomes the glue that keeps you together through the difficult times and helps each of you become your most authentic self.”

What’s more, we rely on our soulmates to help us evolve as people. “You might find a soulmate relationship to be rocky, and that your partner is someone who pushes your buttons and aggravates you at first because they bring with them some of the more difficult lessons for the soul,” Brockway said.

6. You may not see eye-to-eye on every little thing, but you’re on the same page where it really matters.

“A soulmate relationship doesn’t necessarily mean both partners always share the same views, but that their overall goals and ambitions match,” Harra said. “More diminutive opinions will differ, but soulmates generally have the same virtues and values and see the world through a similar lens.”

7. The relationship brings both partners a sense of inner calm.

It’s obvious when you’re with the wrong person; you are insecure about the relationship and worry that one false move will turn your partner off. That’s not the case for soulmates.

“You feel confident that your partner is with you for the long haul,” dating expert Tracey Steinberg, author of Flirt For Fun & Meet The One said. “No matter what happens in your lives, you both agree that you are teammates and in it together.” She continued, “Your inner voice tells you that you are in a healthy relationship. You trust each other, feel confident and comfortable around each other and feel safe discussing challenging topics in a mature way.”

8. You and your partner have separate identities, but you face the world as one.

“Soulmates recognize that they are two parts of the same whole, and no outside influence or external matter can break that bond,” Harra said.

9. You may have known each other for years, but you suddenly find yourselves ready for love at the same time.

When it comes to true love, timing is everything. “I have married so many couples who met in high school or in their twenties, maybe dated, broke up, moved on, or hung out around the same circle of friends and never connected,” Brockway told The Huffington Post. “Then one day, they run into each other again, sometimes in magical ways, and love blooms.” Keep an open mind and an open heart so that when your soulmate comes knocking, you’re ready to answer the door.

By Kelsey Borresen for HuffingtonPost


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25 Unromantic Signs You Have Found Your Soulmate

Throughout our lives, we are faced with many challenges, however, the most daunting can be the journey to find love. And while we meet many people that could be ‘the one’ there are a number of signs that separate the right one from the wrong ones.

1. You Can Literally Guess What They Are Thinking

While others may leave you guessing, when you find the one, there will be times when you can read them so well that you could even finish their sentences.

2. You Enjoy Doing ANYTHING Together

For a good couple, even mediocre tasks like grocery shopping and cleaning house can be enjoyable. No matter what you are doing, somehow you find a way to have fun while doing it.

3. You Can Go Without Your Filter

When we are around most people, we use a filter and carefully weigh our words before saying them. However, when we have found someone that we truly love, we can be ourselves around them, without the filter.

4. You Can Be a Piggy Around Each Other

You are not only comfortable eating in front of each other, you truly pig out without worrying about judgement.

5. Your PDA Has Changed

Instead of constantly kissing, and touching, you find that your PDA is rambling about your inside jokes in front of others, and exchanging smirks across the room.

6. You Can Talk About Anything….Even the Yucky Stuff

If you can talk openly about anything, even your bodily functions, you have found a keeper.

7. You Are Each Others Best Friend

If you can get drunk with your partner and act like a complete idiot, take adventures together, and truly enjoy being together on a regular basis it is likely that you may have found your soulmate.

8. You Have Your Own Language

Not only can you finish each other’s sentences, you also have a series of words that only the two of you understand.

9. It Feels Like You Have Known Them Forever

Whether you have known them for two years or two days, it feels like you have known them all your life.

10. They Know When You Are Made and Try to Avoid Making You 
that Way

If you are in a relationship with a keeper, you will learn the triggers that make you each angry. When you both understand each other’s triggers and actively try to avoid using them, this is a sign of respect and love that makes for a long lasting bond.

11. They Love ALL of You

When you find your soulmate, they will love all of you, from your best assets to your worst flaws.

12. You Are Comfortable With Each Other

You can lay around in your ripped up sweatpants, and sleep hair all day together without ever thinking anything about it.

13. They Think About the Small Stuff

If your partner thinks of you all the time, and even considers the small stuff like how you like your takeout sandwich, then you have found a keeper.

14. You Are Considering the “We” Now Instead of Just the “I”

When you start considering yourself as part of a couple instead of just as yourself and your wants, then you may have found the one. It is easier to let our defenses down and truly become a part of a couple when we have found someone that we want to be with long term.

15. You Can Embarras Yourself Around Them

Not only have you let your guard down and become less vulnerable around them, but you can also actively embarrass yourself around them.

16. You Do Small, Sweet Things For One Another

One day, he may surprise you by washing the dishes when its your turn, or maybe, on your way home, you remembered to grab his favorite snack from the store. These small acts of love make all the difference.

17. You Make Fun of Each Other

You can pick back and fourth with each other, to the point where others may think you are truly bickering. However, you are both snickering and smiling the entire time, because you both know you are only playing.

18. You Don’t Hold Grudges

You have went through your fair share of problems, but at the end of the day, you love each other unconditionally. Neither of you hold grudges, and you constantly are working to better your partnership.

19. You Parent Each Other Sometimes

You may scold one another from time to time, but it is only because you love them. When they are sick, you take care of them and vise verse.

20. No Subject is Left Untouched

You can literally talk about anything with one another from your period, to his bowel movements.

21. You Are a Team

In everything that you do, you are a team. You cheer each other on, and you constantly help each other to support mutual goals.

22. You Support Each Other No Matter What

Even when you don’t agree with your partners cause, you support them.

23. You Empower Each Other

While many couples tear each other down, you work to build each other up.

24. You Can Sit in Silence Together

The two of you can both be in the same room, working on individual tasks in silence and enjoy each others company.

25. You Try New Things Together

If you both find that you haven’t tried something it becomes a new adventure added to the list. You both enjoy trying new things, especially as a team.

By EvolveMe

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