You decided to take things really slow with your man. You didn’t want to put out right away. You wanted to make sure that he was worthy of you. You wanted him to put in the effort before you allowed yourself to be vulnerable with him. Sure, you might have been tempted to just sleep with him earlier. But you knew that you needed to resist the temptation; you knew that you had to wait to see if the love was true or not. You might have been curious and anxious to know what he would be like in bed; but you really wanted to make sure that you had all bases covered first before you acted on your primal sensual instincts.
And did that work out well for you? Well, if you’re reading this article, it’s likely that things didn’t turn out as well as planned after all. Sure. You made him wait. And when you thought the time was right, you slept with him. And the quality of the sex is beside the point right now. What you’re wondering is why after you’ve had sex for the first time, he’s grown more distant towards you. You might have assumed that having sex with one another for the first time might be an opportunity for you to get closer together; to take your relationship to another level. But then, you felt like you were slowly losing grip of your relationship as a whole…
until he just vanished from your life. Why did that happen? Why did he suddenly lose interest in pursuing you after sex? Was it something you did? Was it something you said? Was it your fault? A lot of women in the world aren’t going to know why things turned out like this; nor will they have the answers to how to prevent things like this from ever happening again. You might be feeling particularly vulnerable right now. You might be feeling like you’ve just been betrayed. You might even be heartbroken; and you know that you never want to put yourself through something like this ever again. And that’s why you’re reading this article.
You want to know just why things turned out the way that they did. And more importantly, you want to know what you can do to make sure that you never find yourself in a position such as this ever again. You want to stay guarded. You want to keep yourself protected. You want to look out for yourself. Men can be such peculiar creatures who roam this earth. For most of the time, they can be pretty chill and low-maintenance. They’re like the human equivalent of pet dogs.
You can just throw them a bone every once in a while and they would be happy. Men tend to want to live very simplistic lifestyles – until it’s about sex. When it comes to sex, men become totally different animals. They treat sex so complicatedly. And it can be really hard to figure out what kind of effect sex can have on their little minds. And it’s really annoying and frustrating for the women they are having sex with. Well, this ends here. First off, it’s important for you to know that if a man is truly in love with you, then he would never lose interest in you even after you’ve slept together. So if he lost interest in you, then it probably wasn’t real love anyway.
Second, you have to remember that the problem isn’t you. So you don’t have to keep on thinking about what you could have done better or what it is you might have done wrong. He was the problem. He was the reason things didn’t work out for the both of you. He was the cause of the relationship’s demise. And if you want to figure out why he just suddenly lost interest in you after you had sex, then continue to read on. There are multiple possibilities (or perhaps maybe even a combination of possible reasons) that can be seen as a reason for his losing interest in you. And here they are:
1. All he ever really wanted in the first place was to have sex with you; and nothing more.
2. His lust for you blindsided him to all the bad aspects of your personality that he didn’t like after all.
3. He wasn’t feeling the sexual chemistry between the two of you.
4. He’s intimidated by emotional involvement.
5. He just didn’t feel like the relationship was going to work out after all.
Those are only five possible reasons but really, it can vary from relationship to relationship. The point is that you just have to make sure that you are with someone who loves you for who you are; someone who isn’t just after your body and the sexual pleasures that you can offer him.
6 Common Reasons Why Men Get Bored Of Having Sex (Even With The Most Attractive Women)
Relationships are no joking business. They’re very complex and they have many layers to them. A lot of immature and inexperienced couples often get blindsided by how difficult it really is to sustain a relationship. They think that so as long as they stay in love with one another, things are always going to turn out alright. But the more experienced couples know that that isn’t necessarily always going to be the case. It’s important to keep in mind that a relationship is going to be composed of two very complex and unique individuals who carry individual personalities that often clash with one another.
And when you get that clash in a relationship, it just makes everything even more complicated than it already is.Whenever couples go through trials and tribulations in their relationships, it’s either they end up becoming further apart or they get stronger as a couple. And it’s the couples who are able to handle difficulties and challenges well that are the ones who usually find a way to make their relationships last until forever.One often overlooked aspect of maintaining a relationship with someone is a couple’s sex life. In this modern age, sex is becoming more and more important for couples to maintain intimacy and passion in a relationship.
It’s especially important for MEN in relationships. There’s no denying that men are more obsessed about sex than women are. Its how they’re wired. It’s how they’re programmed. It’s just how their DNA is formed. Men are going to be more serious about sex than women are. And sometimes, that can spell trouble for women. As a woman, you might not be paying too much attention to your man’s sexual demeanor and habits. But you have to know that how he acts in the bedroom can be very telling. A man’s sexual outlook and demeanor can reveal a lot about how he feels about a particular person or a relationship.
So if you notice that your man’s sexual drive is starting to diminish in your relationship, that’s not something that you can just ignore. And if you’re curious to why things have turned out that way, then this article is for you. Here are some probable reasons as to why he’s getting bored of having sex.
1. There is a general lack of physical intimacy and affection in the relationship as a whole.
If your man starts to feel like you aren’t really being affectionate with him anymore, then he’s going to start to lose that luster for being affectionate with you as well. You don’t really kiss anymore. You don’t hug each other goodbye. You don’t cuddle in bed. You don’t really express your love through physically intimate ways. You are both letting your physical forms of stimulation die and it’s slowly killing your sex life – and it’s killing your emotional bond and connection with one another as well.
2. Something seems to be missing in the relationship.
Something is missing. He’s not happy with the way that things are in a relationship. He’s feeling discontent. He’s feeling frustrated. He’s feeling unaccomplished and unfulfilled. All of these negative feelings are making it more and more difficult for him to actually get in the mood for sex. It’s slowly killing his sex drive.
3. He is dealing with his own personal demons that are only fueling his insecurities and worries.
He can’t bring himself to want to have sex with you if he’s far too insecure. He can’t convince himself of being sexy or sensual because his fears and insecurities are eating away at his insides. Being able to have a strong sex drive always relies on a certain level of confidence – and he might be having some confidence issues right now.
4. He has fallen in love with someone else.
This is probably the most heartbreaking item on this list; but it happens way too often in relationships. You have to consider the possibility that your man has fallen in love with someone else; and that’s the reason why you both haven’t been having an active sex life as of late. He can’t bring himself to have sex with someone he’s not in love with.
5. He is preoccupied with other things in life.
Maybe he’s busy. Maybe he’s dealing with a lot of problems at work. Maybe the toxic environment at home is really stressing him out. Whatever the case, his problems are really keeping him from getting into the mood with you. And your sex life is suffering for it.
6. He feels like you’re not into him because you lack initiative and enthusiasm.
You have rarely ever shown him any signs of initiative or enthusiasm for sex; and so he feels like you aren’t attracted to him. He doesn’t want to have to be the one who always initiates sex. He doesn’t want to always be the one who makes the effort in the relationship.