After months or years of being in a relationship, it’s easy to let some things fly when your guy does you wrong. Because honestly, you’re so invested in the relationship, you just don’t want to throw in the towel so easily. You may love him, and see a future with him, but there are some actions that are just inexcusable. If you think he’s the love of your life, he should be acting accordingly. And he should also be on his best behavior, especially if he’s afraid of losing you.
We all make mistakes in a relationship, but there are some things that guys do that should never be forgiven. By letting him get away with things that are disrespectful to you and your relationship, you’ll only be headed toward a lifetime of betrayal, disrespect, and sadness. Here’s are list of some of the most awful things your man can do to damage your relationship, and the reasons why you should NEVER forgive him.
12. Flaking On You
If he’s running late for a few dates, cut him a little bit of slack. He could have been stuck in the worst traffic jam ever, or perhaps his alarm clock failed to go off. But if your guy flakes out on and fails to show up when the two of you make plans, he clearly doesn’t respect you nor your time. A guy who is madly in love with you and committed to making you happy will want to spend all of his free time with you. So cut this flaker loose!
11. Texting his ex
Exes are a tricky subject when it comes to new relationships. Unless your guy has been living under a rock his whole life, he’ll probably have an ex or two lingering around. If he’s strictly platonic with these past lovers, there’s nothing to worry about. But if you discover he’s sending flirty messages to his ex-girlfriend, then honey, don’t forgive him. It’s time for you to get a new boyfriend.
10. Continues to Bring Up the Past
If you want to have a healthy and happy relationship, it’s always best to leave the past in the past. This means old arguments should be erased from your memory once you and your guy kiss and make up. But if your boyfriend can’t help but bring up past incidents and circumstances, he will never be able to move your romance in the right direction.
9. Getting Physical
A guy who lays his hands on you is a guy who doesn’t respect you at all! He has bigger issues that you will never be able to help him with. When things get physical, your life is in danger. Don’t try to question why he acts out physically, just get as far away from him and as far away from the situation as possible.
8. Disrespecting Your Family & Friends
A man who loves you will love your family and friends no matter how annoying they are. So if you notice your guy is taking digs at your family and friends, it’s clear he doesn’t care too much about the people who matter to you the most. This kind of guy definitely doesn’t deserve a second chance to make things better.
7. Pressuring You
It really doesn’t matter what he’s pressuring you about. If your boyfriend is pushing you to do something you’re not comfortable with, he clearly doesn’t respect your boundaries. These pushy request may turn into bigger demands down the road, so it’s best to cut ties with him right away.
6. Puts You on the Back Burner
A guy will make you a priority in his life if he really loves you and wants to be with you. So if you start to notice that he’s no longer spending time with you on weekends, and his friends get first dibs on his days off, he’s clearly not that into the relationship. Don’t bother nagging and begging for his attention, it will only make things worse. Do yourself a favor and dump him. Now he can have all the time in the world to chill with his bros.
If a guy is snooping through your laptop and cellphone, he clearly doesn’t trust you. Even if you have nothing to hide, a snooper will go digging for any sort of incriminating information just to make you feel guilty. Someone who snoops on you clearly has trust issues, and the relationship is bound to fail without trust and respect. Don’t even think about forgiving him when you catch him in the act.
4. Blaming You for Everything
Having a guy that blames you for everything is like living with a parent who nags you all the time. You start to feel like a child who is being reprimanded, and no one wants to live like that! A guy who points fingers and blames you for everything is insecure, and is looking for a scapegoat to make himself feel better. Over time, this type of treatment will destroy your self-esteem. It’s unlikely he will change his ways even if he asks for forgiveness a million times. It’s time to move on, girlfriend.
3. Disrespecting You
A guy who curses at you or belittles you is a man that has no business being in your life. You shouldn’t put up with disrespect from anyone, so go ahead and send this guy packing! We tend to overlook these issues as they don’t seem as big as some of the other problems couples face but this is a big issue and should not be taken lightly.
Everyone tells little white lies here and there, but if your guy is constantly lying about the smallest things, he clearly has a problem with telling the truth. A pathological liar is someone who lies about the most insignificant things just for the heck of it. As time progresses, you won’t be able to distinguish his lies from the truth. Do you really want to be with someone you can’t trust? Yeah, we didn’t think so.
The ultimate betrayal comes when a guy steps outside of his relationship and hooks up with someone else. It’s crushing, it’s damaging, and it can send your entire life into a tailspin. Yes, people do have the ability to change their ways, but what if he doesn’t? Do you really want to give him the opportunity to cheat on you again…and again…and again? Cheating brings a whole new level of distrust and disrespect into a relationship, and many times, it’s best to cut your losses and move on to someone else who respects you enough to be monogamous.