I don’t know if girls (myself included) are just plain stupid, or believing lies to help them cope with the simplistic fact, the person they are interested in, is a complete and total dick.
Because it isn’t complicated. It’s very very simple. He doesn’t like you enough to want to actually be with you. If he did like you, it wouldn’t be complicated.
Now, you may be thinking, he says all the right things. We talk all the time. He’s my best friend.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t choose friends who make me cry myself to sleep, and have me waiting on a text message that may never come.
It’s only complicated, because you are just making up excuses, for someone who doesn’t care enough to commit to you.
“Here’s something else to think about: calling when you say you’re going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can’t lay this one stupid brick down, you ain’t never gonna have a house baby, and it’s cold outside.” – Greg Behrendt
Don’t fall for the words. Fall for the actions behind every word. Because we live in a society where texting is second nature. Conversations are just that, ways to pass time. If he isn’t showing up at your doorstep, proving to you he loves you and wants to be with you, that’s because he is on his way. If he isn’t taking you out to an actual dinner, it’s because he is cooking for you. If he isn’t bringing you flowers, it’s because he knows you like chocolate better. If he isn’t bringing you to meet his family, it’s because he’s bringing his family to meet you.
I don’t care about the dynamics of how complicated their family life might be, if he wants you in his life, he wants you in every part of it, even the bad stuff.
It’s easy to fall for words on a screen. But the real people that matter are the ones who show up. Those people who come when your world is crashing down in front of you, and you have no choice but to watch. They come at whatever the hour, just to hold your hand so you aren’t enduring it alone.
It’s easy to fall for someone who says all the right things, but anyone can do that. The people that are rare, are the ones who do things for you. The ones who drive an hour just to see you for twenty minutes. The ones who buy you something on your graduation, because they could see it in your eyes, that you are upset you can’t attend your own graduation. The ones who sit with you in silence, when you are sick, just so you aren’t alone.
Actions will always speak louder than words, and when push comes to shove they are either gonna come through for you, or they will send the recurring text,“something came up.” or “Need to reschedule.”
You aren’t an appointment. Someone can’t just come when they feel like and reschedule, when it inconveniences them. That’s life. Life is full of many inconveniences. But we muddle through the shit that gets thrown at us, and we make it work.
He’ll always find an excuse as to why you guys can’t be together. But the right guy, only needs one reason to make it work and it will happen. Boys use the line, “it’s complicated.” Men are honest with their intentions.
The moment you stop buying his excuses, I promise you he’ll go away. And I know, you may not want that. I know you may be thinking, but I love him. I can’t imagine my life without him. When you realize your own worth, you’ll look back at this, and almost have pity, on the person you used to be.
Because the only thing complicated about this situation you find yourself in, is that you’ve allowed it to go on longer than it should have.
And if it’s complicated it’s because you are allowing it to be.