“Just because you are a nice guy, doesn’t mean you are a good man.”
― Zyanya Torres.
Nice guy or a good man: which one of these are you?
Yes, you might start scratching your beard and wonder, what’s the point in this question and you if you are doing this right now, then this article is the one for you.
Strange as it might sound, there are differences between a nice guy and a good man.
A nice guy will do nice things and expect the same in return. He will be there to take his lady out on a lavish date and then he will expect her to do something for him.
For a good man, this goodness comes from within. He is good by nature. He doesn’t expect people to behave like him. If someone is good to him, that’ more than fine.
For a nice guy, public image is of extreme importance. Whatever he does, contributes to the enhancing of his image. He needs to be loved and admired by everyone.
But a good man is only conscious of his character. As long as people appreciate his character, he is at peace.
The boundary of a nice guy is fluid. He moulds it as per his needs.
The good man knows his boundary well. He knows where to keep his limits. This earns him the respect of everyone.
A nice guy will flatter his lady love and make her feel she is his world.
But a good man understands the value of true love and knows that being in a romantic relationship with someone doesn’t mean discarding other people and work. He will love her and give her the respect and attention she deserves.
Rejection freaks out a nice guy. He is always seeking validation from others.
The good man, on the other hand knows his worth. He sees acceptance and rejection in the same light.
A nice guy needs a shroud to hide his intentions.
The good man is transparent. His aims and motifs are clear to all and to him.
For a nice guy, there’s always a person or an incident to be blamed for all the negativities in his life.
A good man will never put the blame on others. He will not only take responsibility of his own actions but also be responsible for others.
A nice will only say things people want to hear but a good man will say whatever that the other person should hear.
Apologising and forgiving are not something a nice guy will ever do because of his hidden ego. A good man will do both.
A nice guy is always full of flamboyance. His appearance and etiquettes matter to him most. The good man is only cautious of his character.
Shortcut is the nice guy’s best friend. He will always choose this option and avoid struggles. The good man is willing to go through any hardship because he understands the importance of hard work.
A nice guy will act like Prince Charming for his lady love, promising her fairy tales which he has no idea of fulfilling. The good man knows his limitations and will only promise things which he can fulfil.
A nice guy will not do anything to hurt his lady love. Yes, it might sounds really good but sometimes we all need someone to tell us our flaws so that we can be better people. A good man understands this and will be open about it.
A nice guy will behave like a prince who will be there for his damsel in distress but when he is needed, he will run away. The good man doesn’t consider his lady love as a damsel in distress. He will be there only when she needs him.
For a nice guy, a person exists as long as they can embellish his image and benefits him. A good man treats everyone with love and respect even if they can’t contribute to his development.
Leadership is a quality a nice guy lacks. He is always drawn towards others’ views about him. No matter what, the good man will retain the control of his life. He knows that he is the father of his own fate.
Are you a good man reading this? Then, thank you because this world needs men like you.
And if you have a good man in your life, don’t let him go. They are very rare to find but easy to keep.